The Only 5 Types of Texts You'll Ever Get (And How to Never Overthink Again)

How to Be Attractive Through Text (and Stop Overthinking)

We’ve all been there. You’re staring at your phone, rereading a text, trying to decipher its hidden meaning like it’s an ancient scroll. Should you wait to reply? Should you add an emoji? What if you say the wrong thing and ruin everything?

The truth is, attraction through text isn’t about playing a game or crafting the “perfect” message. It’s about confident texting...the ability to communicate with clarity, playfulness, and purpose. Overthinking kills attraction. Confidence creates it.

And the key to confident texting? Knowing that every text you’ll ever receive fits into just one of five categories. Let me say that again just so it's clear:

Yes, every text you get can fit into just one of five categories.

Once you recognize the pattern, texting becomes effortless. No more second-guessing. No more analysis paralysis. Just natural, engaging conversations that actually lead somewhere.

Let’s break down the only five types of texts you'll ever get...

1. Silence (AKA: No Response Is a Response)

Nothing triggers overthinking faster than a text that never gets answered. You send a message. Nothing. You double-text. Still nothing. You start spiraling.

Here’s the hard truth: Silence is its own message. It usually means one of three things:

• They’re busy.
• They’re not interested.
• They’re testing your reaction.

The worst thing you can do? Panic-text them into oblivion.

The best thing you can do? Recognize that your value isn’t determined by a single text thread. Confident texting means knowing when to engage...and when to let go.

(Want to know exactly what to do when someone goes silent? Download my free In the Moment Dating Guides.)

2. Value Testing (AKA: "Prove You're Worth My Time")

Ever get a text like:

“I bet you say that to everyone.”
“You’re trouble, aren’t you?”
“You probably have 100 girls/guys in your DMs.”

This isn’t small talk...it’s a test. A playful one, mind you, but a test nonetheless.

They’re subtly asking: Are you confident enough to play along, or will you crumble under pressure?

"Fail" this test, and you’ll come off as insecure. "Pass it", and attraction will skyrocket.

The key here is playful, confident responses.

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3. Logic (AKA: The "Normal" Texts That Kill Attraction)

These are the everyday texts:

“How was your weekend?”
“What do you do for work?”
“What’s your favorite type of food?”

Sounds harmless, right? The problem? Most people respond logically.

“It was good, just relaxed.”
“I work in finance.”
“I like sushi.”

And just like that, the conversation flatlines. Literally dead. Confident texting isn’t about answering questions always...it’s about creating energy and curiosity. The best responses aren’t just answers; they’re invitations to play!

(Want to see real examples of how to turn a boring convo into one that actually builds attraction? You know where to go...free guide inside.)

4. Flirty/Sexual (AKA: When Energy Needs to Be Matched, or Else…)

Some messages aren’t meant to be answered. They’re meant to be escalated.

“You wouldn’t be able to handle me.”
“You’re too much… I don’t trust you.”
“We’d probably be a disaster together.”

Most people either:

• Downplay the energy (“Haha, what do you mean?”)—which kills the moment.
• Go overboard (“Oh trust me, I can handle anything.”)—which can feel try-hard.

The right move here? Matching the energy and escalating at the right pace.

(Want to master this? Our free dating guides have breakdowns on how to keep the energy high without trying too hard.)

5. "Closing" (AKA: The Whole Point of Texting)

If your texts never lead to a real-life meet-up, you’re pen pals, not potential partners.

At some point, the conversation has to shift toward:

“Let’s grab a drink this week.”
“I feel like we’d get along even better in person.”
“You seem fun… that better be true in real life too. 😜”

The goal of texting isn’t to create a never-ending chat bubble...it’s to set up the date. Right?

(Want to learn the smoothest, most natural ways to transition to an actual meet-up? It’s all in the guides.)

What To Do Next (So You Never Overthink a Text Again)

Now that you know the only five types of texts you’ll ever get, it’s time to learn exactly HOW to answer them effortlessly. Because that’s where things get fun.

No more stress. No more second-guessing. No obsessing over whether you should wait 17 minutes to reply. Just clarity. Confidence. Results.

I put together some free "In the Moment Dating Guides" to walk you through how to handle every type of text with confidence. Plus, if you want to go deeper, my Beyond the Match: Fundamentals of Dating in the ‘App Era’ breaks down everything you need to know about modern dating success with a really useful Texting Flowchart.

📩 Download the free guide here and take control of your dating life.