Dating Advice for Older Men to Make You a Better Dater

I believe the average thought on confidence is that it's about always "having it all together". Especially when discussing this with younger daters versus older daters. In my experience, it's more about being "real" (aka Vulnerable) at the right times. Let me explain...

Vulnerability, when used the right way, can be the ultimate power move. I know, I know...sounds nuts... Why? Because it shows you’re secure enough to embrace your imperfections. 

Here’s why vulnerability works so well:

1. It builds comfort and trust. When you open up about something personal (not oversharing, just a small glimpse of your world), it signals and says, “I’m comfortable being me, and you can be comfortable being you.” Sharing a story about how you totally fumbled during a big moment doesn’t make you weak...it makes you relatable.
   1. Do you know what happens when you show you're relatable with someone? COMFORT. This is good.
2. It highlights your human side. People don’t "fall in love" with perfection; they fall in love with quirks, honesty, and humanity. Vulnerability shows depth. A simple, “I was nervous about this” or “This reminds me of something I struggled with, but I figured it out” makes you real...and real is magnetic.
3. It sets you apart. Most people are afraid to show their true selves, sticking to safe, surface-level conversations. This will ALWAYS be the case because it's EASIER to be surface-level. That means it's a opportunity for you to stand out. When you step out and reveal a little more, you create a space where deeper connections thrive. That’s where attraction moves from the physical to the emotional.

If this resonates with you but you're not quite sure how you can add vulnerability to your interactions, here's a few examples:

• Share small moments. Mention how you learned something the hard way or talk about a goal you’re working toward.

• Admit you’re human. A quick, “I’m usually bad at names, so remind me if I forget,” can make you seem approachable and grounded.

• Express genuine curiosity. Asking someone, “What’s a big challenge you’ve faced recently?” often invites them to open up, making it easier for you to reciprocate.

These are just quick examples but hopefully it gets the point across. The key is to reveal just enough to show you’re human without turning the conversation into a therapy session. I know, I know...fine line.